Marque De Shade

All you need to know about creating a successful adult blog without really trying.

17 August 2006

Commentary 101B

Your blog doesn’t simply reflect how sexy you are, but what type of crowd you hang out with or, what type of crowd you’d like to impress.

The first step in ensuring you attract the crowd of your preference is to take steps in controlling the comments that come your way.

Yes, officially blogging is the last bastion of freedom but most are aware that this is rubbish. It’s best to think of a blog as one’s own dictatorship: a sexual dictatorship where you’re sexier than Saddam, have more tenacity than Fidel and definitely more savoir fair than Osama.

It all boils down to what you’d like others to perceive and these are the two most popular methods:

1) Super Dooper Nice Guy or Girl - don’t moderate, let anyone comment and if any nasty comments come your way, pretend that you’re blonde and allow them to go over your head. By letting anyone comment, you put forth the view that you’re more open than a sex worker’s legs. Well, that’s the analogy I prefer to use, since this is a sex blog advice page.

2) Upwardly mobile sex blogger or opinionista - moderate, moderate, moderate! This is to separate the sexual wheat from the chaff and it also allows you to entertain the inner dictator within you, which is fun because some of us can’t satisfy this inner need (we’re not loaded with stacks of cash, don’t sell arms, and are relegated to working a forty hour week, and doing the dishes). The basic logic is to keep comments that rock your boat, and delete those that don’t reflect what you’d like to achieve. Once you achieve huge hits, then it doesn’t matter, but while you’re climbing the ladder to sex blog heaven, it helps to get in with the high hitting crowd (refer to previous topics on this subject) and have that crowd leave comments in your blog. This is preferable in the beginning, and looks better than having some unknown sex blogger comment.

How do you get that popular blogger to comment in your blog, you ask? Do you have to write great clit or cock-erature? It’s not a matter of what is written, more the number of egos that are stroked.

Note: this also applies to being selected to appear in Fleshbot, where the same blogs appear twice a month, each month, even though the sexblog count exceeds 120.

On your next sojourn into sex blog world, keep an eye out for bloggers who moderate their comments, and those who don’t - usually the Hollywood equivalent celebrity sex blogger.


Blogger The Gobblin' said...

Now Muff, am I worthy of commenting on this post or will I just be deleted and tossed (I like the thought of that) to one side?

Thu Aug 17, 04:41:00 pm  
Blogger The Gobblin' said...

Where has everybody gone? You mentioned the "F" word and they ran off.

Tue Aug 22, 12:33:00 pm  
Blogger Muff Diver said...

Here I am thinking they'll all gush tsunamis at the mere mention of the F word. Guess I was wrong.

Thu Aug 24, 03:25:00 pm  
Blogger chelsea girl said...

This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.

Thu Sep 21, 04:50:00 pm  
Blogger chelsea girl said...


(I just deleted my earlier version of this comment because I realized, ironically, I had many typos. Here is the fresh, sassy and error-free version.)

I'm the Tuesday editor of Fleshbot's sexblog round-up. I try very hard to include new sex blogs whenever I can. The problem is finding new quality blogs.

Quality is really surprisingly hard to come by. Often, sex bloggers don't proofread their work. I can't in good conscience include blogs that have myriad misspellings, atrocious and uncreative grammar, or a general inattention to writing.

Often I've been burned by including a link to a new blog, only to find that the writer has suffered some pangs of anonymity and pulled the post. Sometimes it just feels safer to include a post by a person whose work I know and respect.

The biggest problem, though, is actually finding new blogs with good posts. I know they're out there, but with what Fleshbot pays me (it's not much) and how little free time I have (also not much), I can't quite see spending hours surfing teh Internets for new quality blogs, especially when they seem pretty few and far between.

If people really, really want me to consider their blogs for Fleshbot, there are a few things they can do. They can link to my blog. I notice who is sending me traffic and I look at their writing. They can leave comments on my blog that are thoughtful and interesting. Or they can just take the time to email me and let me know what kind of stuff they're writing.

Finally, if a person who has been Fleshbotted wants to show appreciation, he or she can always email me. It's nice to know that people notice the time I put into my picks.

chelsea girl

ps. I can't adress what Jefferson, the Friday editor, does in terms of his picks, but these points, I think, show my process.

Fri Sep 22, 02:24:00 am  
Blogger Muff Diver said...

Oh Chelsea, life is hard I know. I'm hanging in there for those gas prices to lower.

In the small community of 100, let's say less than 200 sexblogs out there, I've noticed that you seem to select posts from bloggers you know and they always crop up more than once, and there is a direct relation ship with this, and the frequency of their linking to you. I agree with you there.

Six to eight posts from the vast selection that's out there, and there are too many typos?

So if people link to your blog, to be considered, then they have a chance of being Fleshbotted.

What can one gauge from what you said?

That the posts aren't chosen on their own merit, and more along the lines of providing you with more incoming links?

It's enough to motivate anyone to blog about sex.

Mon Oct 09, 02:31:00 pm  
Blogger Muff Diver said...

Oh, and Chelsea, following from what you've stated. It means that from the six blogs that you select, the remainder lack quality.

I think if you can't put out, then you shouldn't be there in the position you're in. But that's me.

Mon Oct 09, 02:32:00 pm  
Blogger O said...

That's not what CG said. You've misunderstood. One way we all find new blogs is by them linking to us, or by the blogger leaving us a comment. Why would that be any different for Chelsea than anybody else? You've overlooked the main point. If someone would like to be considered for Fleshbot, why not email her? She says above that people should do this, and she's asked more than once on her own blog for people to email her suggestions. I know for a fact that she'd be very happy to look at anything she's sent.


Wed Oct 11, 01:24:00 am  

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